Figuring Life Out

It makes me laugh just to type the words! It’s what my son’s dad used to say, with great seriousness, when he was asked when certain things were going to happen.

My son is in his late 20’s and we still have a good laugh over it now and then. I’ll ask him when he’s going to do something and we both sometimes stop and look at each other and say, in unison, “All in good time, my son!”

But this timing thing is coming up for me in the past couple of days.

For one thing, my son told me he was going to take care of something he said he needed/wanted to do, “When The Time Is Right” (whatever that means). And he got testy when I asked what that meant–before we got around to what was really going on with him behind the not-doing-of-it.

And today I read a great post on Morty Lefkoe’s blog about working with our beliefs. At the end of the post Morty said, “my goal…will manifest in the world when the time comes.” And that got me thinking.

I commented to Morty that I don’t believe there’s a Big Shipping Department in the Sky where someone decides when the Order We Placed With The Universe will be “shipped”.

I believe the Universe responds  immediately, automatically. And it seems WE ourselves may have, on some level, checked the box on our order form that says Ship in two years, or thereabouts, or when the time comes, or the infamous “All In Good Time, My Son!”

Here’s where it gets interesting. Why and how would we do that?

There are lots of broad explanations for why: (1) we want what we ordered but don’t believe we deserve it (think lottery here), we don’t really believe it can happen to us (lottery again?), we believe we have to figure out how to make it happen and we can’t, etc.

Or (2) we want it but, more than wanting it, we don’t want the problems we associate with having it, or we don’t like the kind of people that have it,  or we don’t want to take the chance of losing something we’ve got in the process of getting whatever IT is, and so it goes.

As to how we do delay receiving our order, I’m learning we can easily have beliefs that contradict the smooth receiving of what we desire. It’s obvious that just running affirmations through our minds like lyrics to our favorite songs doesn’t get results. I believe by looking at what we believe–really looking for and looking at what we believe is the first step.

And discovering beliefs like those listed above gives us the opportunity to examine them and determine if they’re serving us well…a chance to look at whether they’re contradictory to the desire we’ve expressed. We can ask ourselves if a person who believed what we believe would have X (the thing we want) in their life. If not, we’ve got a bit of work to do.

Are there areas where you say you want something but aren’t sure what you really believe around that subject?